• Jackie Downs

Marriage Changes Your 20's : Part 1

Being married so young, I get so many questions about why I did it, why I didn't want to explore and date more, why we didn't just date and live together, etc. Our culture sees marriage in your early 20s as something mad. I want to explain why I feel that it is the best!


Not long before marriage, but still a very extroverted Jackie out super late with friends!

I've read somewhere that people think getting married young, say at 21, is like leaving a super fun party at 9:30. Would you like to know how I feel about that? I'm not offended by any means at all. I used to be the girl out until 2, 3, 4 in the morning in the middle of the week just to get up and be at work at 8 am or earlier. I may not have gone to all the parties (with not really going to college, I never experienced that life), but I went out with friends a lot! I was not a homebody, it was always so sad to go home.


Where am I now? If it was up to me, I would choose to spend the evening with my husband at home or at a nice early dinner! We are in bed by 9:30ish almost all the time. For a while, I was frustrated, we never went out, I would just lay in bed not really tired, but I wanted to be with my hubby. Don't get me wrong, I still love going out with my friends, but midnight is late for me now!


Getting married so young has a stigma. People seem to think that marriage turns you into some old people who never leave the house and don't have any fun. In reality, our lives just shift. We have entered a new level of adulting. We are no longer individuals, only responsible for ourselves, with no one waiting at home for us or depending on us.


That in no way means we have to be attached by the hip at all times, but it means we check with each other before plans are made and prioritize spending time together before seeing others. My time with my husband is so precious to me because our schedules are crazy, so if I seem like an old lady who says no to going out more often than not, don't take it like I don't want to, because I do miss that life sometimes, but my husband takes precedence.

I'd sit with this guy at home any day :)


Being married young has made me a homebody, but I wouldn't change my life for anything. My husband is my best friend and I would much rather spend all my nights with him than party and drink all the nights of my life! If that is your life, awesome! Enjoy it! There is nothing wrong with that, its just not where we are in our life anymore.


Stay tuned for more on this topic! I have so much to say hahaha